As a mom, nothing is more important to you than the health and wellbeing of your child. But according to research, the emotional and mental health of children is inextricably tied to the emotional and mental health of their mothers. When happiness thrives in the lives of parents, it thrives in their children’s lives as well. Which means, the opposite also rings true. When parents, and most pertinently- moms, are unable to cope with emotional adversities such as stress, overwhelm, and depression, children can become susceptible to emotional and psychological ramifications at any age or stage of their development.
Takeaway: One of the best ways to ensure the wellbeing of your child, is to take great care of yourself and your mental health.
To ensure the optimal wellbeing of your baby/child, you need to be healthy, period! Self-care is anything but selfish. Best of all, the skills that you learn will be invaluable to the positive example you set for your children.
The reason for this, is that children learn through observation. As Mr. Ikeda, author of HAPPY PARENTS, HAPPY KIDS, explains: Every mom may, “at times make mistakes, become overwhelmed or lose [their] temper. What is important, however, is to make wholehearted effort. Children grow up watching their parents. It is not the parents words that children hear. No matter what wonderful things parents may say, if their words are not accompanied by action, children will never listen. Children’s lives will be determined by how parents live. The parents’ love and way of life will, like magma beneath the earth’s crust, form the innermost core of children’s hearts and become a source of energy to support the rest of their lives.”
Distilled from various studies (cited at the bottom of this article), here are a few helpful facts that demonstrate the importance of Mom’s wellbeing:
- “Children’s social-emotional wellbeing is promoted when parents receive support to achieve and maintain good mental health, and to implement warm and consistent parenting practices, especially during difficult circumstances.”
- “Mother’s positive parenting behaviors including warmth, consistency and low frequency of hostile parenting had a significant positive effect on children’s social-emotional outcomes”
- “Children whose mothers experienced moderate or high levels of psychological distress were more likely to be at an increased risk of social-emotional difficulties at every age.”
- “Maternal depression is considered a risk factor for the socio-emotional and cognitive development of children.”
- “Even mild long-term depressive symptoms among mothers are connected with emotional problems among small children such as hyperactivity, aggressiveness and anxiety. The father’s depressive symptoms affected the child’s emotional problems only if the mom was depressed as well. The mother’s symptoms, however, affected the child even if the father was not depressed.”
- “Depression among parents both during and after pregnancy not only affects the person suffering from depression but also has a long-term impact on the well-being of the newborn child. Even in cases of mild depression, it is important that the symptoms are identified and the parents are offered support as early as possible, if necessary already during the pregnancy.”
Of course, life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows. It would be completely impractical to think you could get through parenthood miraculously avoiding stress and problems; and no one can expect themselves to feel on point all the time! There will always be sources of stress and problems to solve throughout life- especially as a mom. So what can moms do to take care of themselves emotionally, and set a positive example, despite imperfect circumstances? While you can’t control life, you CAN do things to set yourself up for emotional success no matter what’s thrown your way. Your mental health can thrive (regardless of what’s going on), if you spend time investing in it! If you spend time investing in yourself- and it can all start with 5 minutes in the morning.
One simple, quick, and effective way to invest in your mental health, is by working with Positive Affirmations- both general, and curated Positive Affirmations for Mom.
If you already know what affirmations are, or would like to save time and skip ahead to the Positive Affirmations for Moms section, you can scroll now to the bottom of this blog. In addition to affirmations for moms, we’ve included a bonus list of affirmations you can say to your child. If you would like to learn more about what affirmations are, and why + how they work, keep reading!
💜 ps – below is my little Lily when she was just a few days new.
Next Up: What Are Affirmations?
Positive affirmations are simply positive statements that you intentionally choose to think and repeat over time. You can read them, write them, say them aloud, or listen to them on audio. The repetition of positive affirmations, or aspirational statements, is an effective way to reprogram the subconscious mind, in order to help us create the reality we want. They can serve as inspiration, as well as simple reminders. They also can serve to focus attention on goals throughout the day, which, in and of itself, has the potential to promote positive and sustained change.
If the outcome you desire is thriving mental health and wellbeing for you and your child, positive affirmations are one method you can utilize to lay the foundation.
According to Walter E. Jacobson, M.D., there is value in affirmations, because our subconscious mind plays a major role in the actualization of our lives and the manifestation of our desires. What we believe about ourselves at a subconscious level can have a significant impact on the outcome of events.
Furthermore, a team of researchers at Carnegie Mellon found that self-affirmations actually buffered stress and improved problem-solving performance in chronically stressed individuals.
At the simplest level, when we feel good about ourselves and have a positive attitude, our lives tend to run smoothly.
On the other hand, when we feel bad about ourselves and have a negative attitude, we tend to engage in self-defeating behaviors which may cause negative outcomes, like financial mishap, interpersonal drama, or acute or chronic illness.
Here’s how success mogul, Jack Canfield explains affirmations:
“To affirm something is simply to declare that it is true. Daily affirmations are simple, positive statements declaring specific goals in their completed states. Although they sound rather basic at that level, these empowering mantras have profound effects on the conscious and unconscious mind. Daily affirmations are to the mind what exercise is to the body. Repeating affirmations helps to reprogram the unconscious mind for success. It helps eliminate negative / limiting beliefs, and transforms your comfort zone from a limited one keeping you trapped in mediocrity, to a more expanded one where anything is possible. It helps to replace your I cant’s with I cans, and your fears and doubts with confidence and certainty.
Affirmations are reminders to your unconscious mind to stay focused on your goals and to come up with solutions to challenges and obstacles that might get in the way.
They can also create higher vibrations for happiness, joy, and gratitude that then, through the law of attraction, magnetize people, resources, and opportunities to you to help you achieve your goals.
The daily use of positive affirmations interrupts and eventually replaces all negative thoughts and beliefs that hold you back. To achieve this, you must continually flood your subconscious with thoughts of the new reality you wish to create.”
Your words have the power to create your circumstances. As a mom, with the intention of creating a harmonious and happy home life for their children, it’s imperative to create a harmonious and happy inner environment within yourself. Your positive inner dialogue will radiate from thoughts to behavior that your children will emulate, and energy they will pick up on (as the studies above have demonstrated).
Final tip! Peruse the affirmations below and select the ones that resonate with you. Discard the one’s that don’t resonate. Affirmations only work if you feel that they are believable!
50 Positive Affirmations for Moms
- I am loved.
- I am whole and complete.
- In the eyes, mind and heart of my child, I am a good mom. My love, warmth, affection, and connection helps my child above all else.
- I give my absolute best, and my best is enough. Who I am, and what I do, is enough.
- I trust my intuition.
- I will make the most of today.
- Taking care of myself makes me a better mom. I give myself permission to nurture and mother myself, too.
- I created human life. I am powerful beyond measure!
- I am strong, I am brave and courageous.
- I am the exact parent my child needs to blossom.
- I am so grateful that I get to be a mom in this lifetime.
- There is peace and love in my home, even in the midst of chaos.
- I am patient with myself. I am kind to myself. I respect myself, and I value myself.
- Every day, I choose to take good care of myself.
- I acknowledge my own self-worth. Every day, my confidence grows!
- I gave BIRTH. I am a badass!
- Motherhood is a blessing and a privilege. “Mom” is a badge of honor, one I wear proudly.
- Motherhood has revealed my strengths, and is helping me grow and evolve into the women I was always meant to become.
- Every day, I show up. I show up for my child, I show up for my family, and I show up for myself.
- My family appreciates and loves me, even when they forget to tell me so.
- I feel like the best mom for my child, even if/when things aren’t perfect.
- I am fully present with my child and strive to make all of our moments together count.
- Today I will love fiercely, laugh freely and live courageously. I can never get today back.
- Today I am enthusiastic and full of energy
- I possess all of the qualities needed to be fully happy.
- I am proud of myself and all of my effort given as a mother.
- Today, I will let go of any guilt, doubt, or perfectionism weighing on my shoulders. I am not perfect but I am the perfect mom to my child, and exactly what they need.
- My ability to conquer my challenges is limitless; my potential to succeed is infinite.
- I radiate beauty and love.
- I wake up today with strength in my heart and clarity in my mind.
- I am at peace with all that has happened, is happening, and will happen.
- I forgive those who have harmed me in my past and peacefully detach from them.
- I offer myself forgiveness every day.
- One bad day does not make me a bad mom. One bad day makes me human.
- A river of compassion washes away my anger and replaces it with love.
- I am capable. I am selfless. I am patient. And I love deeper than I ever thought possible.
- I was made for motherhood. Even if it’s not easy, it’s the most rewarding, fulfilling thing in the world!
- I am dedicated and devoted.
- I am fully present with my child.
- I am fun and playful!
- I am nurturing, and most importantly, I am exactly what my child needs. There is no such thing as perfect parenting, but I am the perfect mother for my child.
- Every choice I make for my child comes from love.
- I am always learning, growing, and evolving as a mother. I can even pause and mother myself when I need a break.
- Nobody has it all together all the time. I take things one step, one day, one phase at a time, and release myself from the burden of unrealistic expectations.
- I don’t have to be perfect to be a great role model- to be a living embodiment of love. Children learn through observation; what they see leaves the biggest impression on their psychological development. It teaches them how to navigate the world. So, my child will see me be kind to myself and others. Respect myself and others. Love myself and others. My child will learn how to treat and take care of themselves, based on how I treat and take care of myself. So I take GOOD care of myself.
- I am a friend to myself. I forgive myself, and offer myself compassion. I release perfectionism and any need for external validation.
- I find humor and opportunity in difficult situations.
- I am the best mom for my child.
- I use my mom affirmations to bring me back to center, and put things into perspective when needed.
- I love my mom affirmations and deserve every single one of them.
BONUS! 30 Positive Affirmations to Say To Your Child
- I love you no matter what
- I am grateful for you
- I am here for you
- I love you unconditionally
- You are important
- You are good
- You can do hard things
- You are beautiful inside and out
- You make me proud
- You don’t have to be perfect to be great
- I trust you
- You are smart
- I believe in you
- I love your positive attitude
- You make me so happy
- I love your positive mindset
- You have great ideas
- You are valuable
- Your opinion matters
- Being around you is so fun
- The family wouldn’t be the same without you
- That you did was awesome
- You are interesting
- I could never stop loving you
- You are a good friend
- You make my heart full
- THANK YOU for being you
- I understand you
- I forgive you
- I love you, I love you, I love you!
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